Toxic friends
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@Sharon I know I need to but I’m too scared. I don’t know why. I just can’t bring myself to do it. I think I just always think maybe they will come round but then in my head I know that even if they did, they just use me and never respect me so why would I want that friendship. But for some reason I stay 🤦♀️ it’s incredibly annoying x
Do you talk to them much now and do they live close by?
Block them or put them in a group chat letting them know why you don’t want to be friends and why your cutting ties. Sometimes things are easier to let go when your honest with yourself and the other ppl involved. I personally would just stop talking/ hanging out with them. You deserve to be surrounded by people who are genuine and actually care about you not ppl who are using you. Best of luck
If you are always the one contacting them then it’s a one sided friendship. They aren’t friends if they only contact when they need something
@Vantasia I did talk to them as we’ve got a group chat. Basically we all agreed to go on a night out (we argued about other stuff before this) but they choose a night I couldn’t do and then asked me to pay even though I wasn’t going. I said I felt like they were screwing me over because they knew I couldn’t do that day but they still want me to pay for it and they came back with really nasty comments saying I have no other friends, I owe them the money, I’m a nasty person for thinking they would screw me over because friends wouldn’t think that etc. demanded £150 from me for something in the past which I wasn’t even involved in, saying I was stressing them out and making them ill, demanded I apologise to them (which I did 5 times and they still won’t forgive me for using the word screwed over), saying I don’t value their friendship etc. and before this they were posting pictures of my son on social media even though I asked them not to (I don’t post him) and they did it anyway x
So I’ve already told them and they just put everything back on me and make me feel guilty. I’m just fed up of always being made to feel like sh*t and always the one to blame for everything. I just don’t know how to cut them off because I know they will say I was in the wrong and tell everyone I was a bit*h and ignored them x
Cut them off girl x
I think what all the ladies here replying to you have in common is the fact that we’ve all gone through this. When we were going through it, it seemed impossible and hard and it HURT. But the reason why we are able to talk about it now is because we made it through. So I want you to know that your feelings are valid. We felt the same way. Remember your child is everything and if you told them not to post photos of your child, a friend should listen, they didn’t. That is a big NO. That’s them telling you, “your request doesn’t matter to me.” If you’re not willing to do this for yourself, do it for your child. Allow this little bundle of joy to guide you to the person you already are. Find your strength through their love. Hoping you feel better soon. 💙
Sometimes being alone with no friends is the best option. These “friends” will bring regrets with your child, I’m telling you because my mom had those types of relationships. And apart of all the regrets in our relationship, it hurts me so much that she spent so much energy and time in people that never loved her back, never helped her when she needed it. If you’re afraid of being alone, believe me, you will be alone if you stay with them. Look for a way to love yourself, activities you like, and in those activities you’ll meet people that’s actually more similar to you and that can connect with you. When you do these people will be more easily forgotten. You know you did no wrong, maybe you want to prove yourself, but there’s no way you’ll prove to them, that’s not a possibility, so you can really prove how much your worth is with people that understand you and actually care
Thank you ladies 💕 this is what I needed to hear xxx
Toxic people are no good to you and never will be. I know it’s hard as I’m sure it wasn’t all bad times. You deserve to be treated with respect. It might be a case where you need to completely cut ties or let it fizzle out naturally.