Both of y’all sound crazy and need to leave each other alone
I don't think you're crazy because everyone is so different in that aspect. My husband and I have the opposite issue where we can't stay upset. We will be heated arguing and then over it in 2 minutes. It never lets us process and assess where we need changes.
You both don’t have effective emotional regulation most likely.
If it takes you days to get over s heated argument to the point where you're still pissed, you need anger management classes and therapy to understand why you get this anger and better ways to cope.
Your Not Crazy Mine Does The Same And Someone Told Me Everyone Deals With Things Differently Which I Respect But Y’all Also Gotta Communicate I Definitely Understand Where Your Coming From Cause I’m The Same Way And He Does The Same Exact Thing And I Just Ignore Him Til I’m Ready To Talk Just Take Your Space And Talk When Your Ready
People recover from things in different times and ways I’d definitely talk to him about giving you your space after an argument so you can process in your own time