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Advice me please

Ever since I got married,my husband has never posted me on his socials ,unless I compulsorily ask. Like last year on my bday he got me surprise cakes n launch proposal but still did not post me on his socials, he claimed he doesn’t want attention or any sort. He has always maintained that he is private and TBH , I have never seen him post anything on his social, even himself or his extended family member. He even forgets his own birthdays unless I remember him. So now is bday is coming up , n I am confused on what to do. I am very social and appreciate people a lot on thier birthday by posting on my social handles. But now I’m conflicted because how can I post every one else but my own husband. I seriously do not want to post him up . I want to make his bday seem as very insignificant as I feel on my own birthdays yet I keep wondering what people would think or perceive about this. My husband forgot our first anniversary n made it so miserable for me by stating he is not the type who post or remembers celebrations, who does that? I mean even tho he got me cakes last year for my bday but didn’t post me , what do you suggest I do or What are your thoughts

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I definitely wouldn’t post him.. i would explain to him how it makes u feel but if he never post anything it doesn’t sound out of the ordinary. But him forgetting important dates and anniversaries is a red flag. That would make anyone feel a way so i definitely understand that. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that

He don’t want you posting him or he doesn’t wanna post you. That’s a first considering y’all are married so who cares about attention or people knowing. You’re not his girlfriend you’re his wife big difference

We don’t post each other (or much of anything) on our socials. We’ve been happy for nearly 20 years. In my experience the happiest relationships are not on social media.

My boyfriend has posted me on his socials I think maybe 5 or 6 times in the 3 years we have been together. It really bothers me that he makes me feel like a secret because he actually does use them but all he ever posts about is his trucks. I ask him all the time why I'm a secrete and he always tells me I'm not he just doesn't think about it (like thanks I'm glad I'm not worth thinking about.) I guess it really only bothers me because my ex husband would post about me all the time and actually made me feel like he was proud of me.

My husband doesn't post about me on his social media. He never has done. He has us as his profile picture from our wedding day. He used to allow posts on his page that I had tagged him in, but now he doesn't. Deep down I don't think he personally likes our little boy on his page. Likes it private which is fine. God what did we all do before social media?? Nobody is bothered. Yes it's nice to be shown off but it's what happens in the real world that matters xxx

Well the posting doesn’t seem like an issue and it’s something you should grow out of. However the forgetting birthdays and anniversaries is just disrespectful to you

Obviously you care what people think about you so personally I'd say to make your post otherwise you're going to be feeling guilty which you could do without ... However I don't personally feel the need to post and don't do it much if at all so I see where your husband is coming from as well with posts and don't believe it is something you should get too upset about as he doesn't mean to upset you by it, he's not doing it maliciously. However, the forgetting of birthdays and anniversaries is VERY different and he needs to step it up as I'm sure it makes you feel very insignificant to him! And I think this is the real problem your struggling with, in which case speak to your husband and try to get him to understand from your perspective.

You said ever since you got married… so was he posting you before?

My advice is to stop taking social media so serious. If you’re happy in your relationship then continue to be happy. The whole world does not need to know what you have going on. I haven’t posted my hubby on my socials, but that’s doesn’t mean I don’t love him. Don’t post my kids but that doesn’t mean they’re not important to me. I genuinely just don’t want some people in my business. If he struggles with the remembering dates, don’t fault him for it. Explain that they are important to you and and what you can do to help him remember. Don’t be spiteful though or do things to purposefully spark an argument. That’s the last thing I’m sure you would want.

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