Am I being controlling?

Maybe you should try and make some new friends and have your own time also He can't be staying in the house all day

@Cristina I agree, but how do I make friends ? I’ve been trying for 6 years I work from home and all my colleagues are hundreds of miles away

Well for example in my town there is a group for women and they are doing weekly meetings Maybe you can check if you have something similar in your town and give a try

You can also just get up and say well tonight I'm going with u if he like it or not." Or just get dressed one day and leave him in the house and go somewhere.

Do a dance class, Pilates, gym or something to socialize

I do think the way you're acting is a bit controlling and unhealthy, yes. It's important to have friendly relationships outside of your partner. So both him and you need friends. It's healthy and normal for him to want to spend time with friends once in a while, and you should want him to do that. Sounds like you may have an insecure attachment. Keep messaging local women on here, you can definitely make a friend or two with some effort.

I agree with the other ladies…I’ve met a lot of great people in mommy and me classes, gyms and even this app. Also, I love my alone time go to dinner by yourself, have a spa day or see a movie. Let that man live…if the tables were turned and my hubby was telling me I can’t go somewhere or what time to be back I’d prolly leave him.

I can totally relate! are you uk? x

I don’t think it’s controlling, it’s healthy for relationships to have agreed boundaries. I had the same issue with my ex, who went out very very often and would get home drunk & later than the time he had said he would. This meant that he wasn’t sober in time to look after our baby because I was working on weekends. Clearly I’m no longer with him as this was a recurring issue and one that wasn’t safe our son. It was inconsiderate of our relationship and our family. He used to say the issue was that I didn’t have any friends and that I would feel better if I made friends however I know it was my needs not being met in the relationship. My fiancé very rarely goes out, but if he does he makes sure he has spent quality time with me first throughout the week, could be a home date for example, because that’s my love language and he’s my best friend, this means my need for companionship has been filled when he does goes out, and he comes home at a reasonable hour

Don’t allow it often. Maybe 3 times a year lol.

I'm kinda the same as you. My baby daddy and I rarely hangs out but he hangs out with female and male co workers and doesn't invite me anymore because I'm not an outgoing person and I don't dance. I barely drink

@Luz if only.. 😂

I would definitely try and get out there and make friends everyone needs time on their own and getting angry or jealous about your partner going out is just going to end bad

Honestly, there shouldn't be an issue with him going out, but regarding him always getting home later then he says he would, that would bug me. But if it was the other way around, let's say you made a close friend to hang out with and do just as he is doing. Would he be okay with that?

Do not live for your partner in this way. Put on a cute outfit, beat your face, and hit a club or a bar. If thats not your thing, video games, parks, meetups (that app) all work yoo. Make some friends of your own. Having your bf/husband/partner as your only friend will ultimately ruin your relationship.

I struggle to make friends too. I’ve moved to the uk since getting married and literally new to the area. And even if I did meet people, how do you actually being close with someone. Like i wanna find someone that needs a bestie, coz I really need one, but I feel like it’s hard at this age and once you become a mum sadly

Im the same , set boundaries so he dont take the piss . Mine use to go out alot till i told him now he goes out odd occasionally and he dont go out for long he would go for a pint or 2 with his dad or a mate he normally texts me when hes on his way home etc… he knows i wont take anymore crap from him . Sometimes u need to make them realise u wont be walked over an be tooken as a mug. Hope ur ok and it gets sorted xxx

Maybe join one of the groups on here that is local to you and ask for a meet-up. I'm sure there's loads of people in a similar situation and would jump at the chance to meet new people

@Jenny yes I am!

Oh cool where in uk x

I’m nr Southampton x

@Jenny Lancashire

Im in bedfordshire x