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Does he dress nice? Does he look presentable, if so tell him get his priorities straight, clearly hes got some issues and hun just apply for work from home jobs if you have a little one.

@Aqsa yeah he does I’ve told him so many times but it’s like he ain’t bothered about it, I’m applying tbh I need my own income men nowadays are so not right in the head.

Try and maks yourself presentable and freshen up for the day and just do something to stand on your own two feet. Its true unfortunately some men dont care

@Aqsa I’m always ready like I have a shower get dressed but you know when you’ve constantly got the same outfits you don’t even feel fresh

I know i get you, can you message me privately x

@Aqsa I’ll message you now x

This is me! Same clothes from my last two pregnancies that’s all I wear, don’t have the ‘ up to date ‘ fashion I wear the same things all the time. I really do miss working just having that independence of my own money to buy what I want or need etc

@🤲🏽❤️ X it’s so devastating sometimes after all we do even just some consideration to our feelings would be appreciated

I know, and then when you ask for things it’s a no it’s not really needed is it or some other excuse but they can go and buy new shoes and what ever they want at silly prices and I’m like 😓

I'm really so sorry sis. I have no idea what to say to you. Convince your husband to give you money like 50£ to spend it on yourself. It nothing harm. He really need to appreciate you alot sis and he need to open his eyes. My husband always sent money through my account and he always said" buy whatever you like & I also send you money for groceries separately too. If you need more then let me know. I will send it straight away " just recently he brought me gold earring and custom real gold bracelet aswell from his side. Sister this isn't fair on you. I wish I can give you all my clothes and send it to you now! X Are u in UK sister? x

Try selling a few old things on Vinted and use the money to buy a few new things? I love Vinted and use it all the time 💕

@Zakia Ali Khan oh wow sis that’s amazing. Inshallah you always stay happy😘😍🤲🏻 yes I’m in the uk, inshallah may he change but ugh it’s so hard sometimes x

@Seeker I’m going to do this thanks sis xx

I mean in islam he MUST provide for you, Allah doesn’t like the stingy people. You have to stand for yourself his money is YOURS. Don’t wait for him to ask you if you need anything just take his card and buy it 😉

I'm sorry sister that's not fair. We recently had a child and moved and even though we both work things are tight money wise. Despite all this I still get a "pocket money" that I can spend on whatever I like. We put all our money towards expenses for house car etc. and my husband never spends any money from our incomes on himself maybe once a year he will buy 1 shoes or perfume. So it's EXTREMELY unfair of your husband if you guys have the money AND he is spending on himself but being stingy for you. Islamically he has to provide for you. Even if he gives you 50 £ or 100 every month and you can go shopping or save for something big

It is disliked in Islam to be stingy. 1. Holy Qur'an, Al-Nisaa, 4:37. —Those who are [themselves] stingy and bid [other] people to be stingy, and conceal whatever Allah has given them out of His bounty; and We have prepared for the faithless a humiliating punishment. Allah SWT obliged men to provide the basic amenities to his wives like security, suitable clothes, comfortable home, and adequate food. A husband must understand that he is the guardian of his woman and he has to take care of her comforts and needs. Personally, I would just tell him you’re going to start looking for a job to buy some clothes for yourself and call his bluff.

Make a list of your personal expenses and request an allowance..this is not on.