MIL rant
My baby is 3 months old and lately my MIL keeps asking when she is going to see my son again and that she never gets to see him even though my mom and siblings see him almost every week. My MIL lives about 45 minutes to hour away depending on traffic. It's hard trying get a baby ready, diaper bag and bottles packed, then drive almost an hour there just be there for little bit before she needs to go do something else or she goes to her boyfriends house which is about 40 minutes in the other direction of our house. She is at her boyfriends house pretty much every weekend which means she has to drive through our town to get to his but never stops by to visit even though she knows we don't mind just send us a text to let us know you're stopping by so we can be up and decent. And the couple times she has stopped by she either texts my husband while he's at work to tell me she's coming by or has his sister texts me instead of texting me herself. It's hard to communicate anything to her because she thinks we're just trying to argue or being overly worried parents for no reason and she never did anything we did when she had babies. On Easter after church, I had to give my baby a bottle before we left to go to my family's since my aunts house was a little over an hour away. She tried convincing me to just give him the bottle in the car on the way there and when intold her I don't feed him in the carseat while driving because he wasn't even 2 months at the time and had really bad spit ups and didn't want him choking and not being able to get him out she made the of face of you're being ridiculous and said it's absolutely fine there's no reason to worry just feed him in the carseat and that I'm doing to much. She was even mad that my son was in the nicu for first week after he born due to respiratory failure and his kidneys not being developed fully and said that he was fine and there's no reason for him to still be there after a few days and to just take him out and bring him home even though he was still connected to machines to help him breathe just because she wanted to see him and she ended up not visiting for whole other week after he was released and healthy enough to come home. Thank you for letting me rant I know it's a bit long.
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@Simone thank you it's nice knowing that there's people who understand I've been feeling overwhelmed mentally and even though my husband helps out I feel like he doesn't fully understand what I'm going through and it's hard finding the right words without it seeming like I'm placing all the blame on him when I'm not.
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Hey hun, all that you’re saying is valid but I want you to consider a few things before feeling so bad about the situation. Right now you’re in the most difficult phase of PP so whatever whoever is saying just become a little deaf and focus on yourself and the baby. As for your mil she is your husbands problem. Tell him to ask her to start dropping by and that you’ll only bring the baby on long car rides after spit ups are under control. Tell HIM to tell his mom how he gets tired and don’t want to drive. Then let her show up whenever you’re in pjs it doesn’t matter. Right now you need to just focus on the baby and not let anything else overwhelm you. As much as I respect my mil and she’s a doctor, I completely disagree with her parenting styles and I’ve told my husband with examples and he just tells her off if she gets overbearing. Result? She loves the baby so much that she has learned not to interfere. When she does she knows she will get a tell off from my husband.