How?

Honestly just screenshot everything and only talk to him with a smile thinking about how you could make his life a thousand times worse w them😂

I’m so indifferent about mine. I can’t be bothered. I have a whole person to raise. I can’t do that properly worried bout what he’s doing. My child will always come first

Just knowing that their intention is to piss you off and want a reaction from you is enough for me not to give it to them or entertain it. Because when you go off on them, you’re stooping down to their level and you never wanna do that.

I feel this on a personal level 1000% I cannot hold back or bite my tongue at all with him he’s pushed my buttons so much that they’re now stuck pushed down. I’m typically so lax but with him I’m literally driven to a crazy standpoint.

I wish I could get that mentality @Tosha because my son definitely can sense when I’m stressed out or upset and it’s so not fair to him

@Blair that’s literally why I’m just ignoring at this point. I know he’s just trying to get a reaction out of me which is lame on his part.

@Alexa that used to be me but I reached the point where I just ignore him since I know his intentions and I won’t give him what he wants. It bothers them more when we don’t respond, eats them up. Still pisses me off though when he thinks he’s doing anything to help me help my kids smh, pathetic really

@Tosha idc if this man gets a girlfriend or someone else pregnant or really whatever he does with his life. What bothers me is how he thinks he’s helping me or doing me a favor when really what he’s talking about in this situation, it’s really me and my kids helping him. He’s pathetic is all

Sounds extremely narcissistic to me. I’d cut off all communication unless it was pertaining to the children. And that goes for help. If they are with you-yup don’t need to be helping him. What a chode he sounds like

I’m going through the same thing I need my peace and this heifer hasn’t help since Feb isn’t on child support and I block him from my moms phone and she texting him to buy diapers and. His milk. At his age 29 no one should remind you to help. And my mom isn’t respecting my boundaries

Honestly I would open up a notes app and pretend you are texting him. Tell him what you feel about him but never send it

In my opinion, if I had bd issues, I'd just cut contact if hes not doing anything beneficial for the child, ain't no sense in trying to keep someone around who doesn't want to be around, I was adopted by my grandma, and she used to tell me that if I got pregnant to always be prepared to be able to support myself and the child because there's no guarantee you'll always have a man there to support you. Her husband died when they had 12 kids, so she had to pick up all the slack on her own and raise them, so she kinda holds the standard that women should be able to provide for their child on their own the second you get pregnant because even if he doesn't leave you something could happen to him. Heck, she'd probably smack tf outta me if I ever tried talking to her about bd problems because she'd probably tell me "you let him get you pregnant, now you got a kid to raise so don't worry about what he's doing anymore if he don't want nothing to do with your kid"

@Lexi that’s a great idea I love it!!