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How to let go of someone you know doesn’t love you back?

I have been with my fiancé for 5 years. I have forgiven him for a lot of very hurtful things. This last one killed me though. He proposed last July, and then we found out we were pregnant in Aug. I found messages between him and another woman in Nov. I lost it. Every painful thing he put me through came to the surface. He protected the other woman’s feelings and threw my phone when I said I was going to message her. The police got involved because he pushed me. There was a protection order put in place. We had no contact for a couple of months. It killed me, but I was healing, and focusing on my pregnancy and two older children. When the order got dropped, he reached out to reconcile. I stupidly did.. I can tell he doesn’t love me. He keeps his phone locked down, all he does is play video games, doesn’t pay attention or remember anything I say. I think he only wanted to get back together for our son and to look better to his family. It’s the worst feeling ever. I don’t know how to leave now.

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You learn to love yourself . The shitty feeling you feel every time he lets you down remember that and tell yourself you’re worth so much more . It’s very hard because they’re the one you love but honestly he will never ever change and he will continue to treat you that way because he knows you love him and will never leave , better to leave now and heal 5 years is not to long to still get out . You deserve healthy love if that is what you truly want for yourself I wish you a lot of clarity but take it day by day and everyday remind yourself why you are letting go fuck the good parts they’re not worth all the bad . Unless they are for you &’only you get to decide . If he one day leaves you for who he loves would staying be worth it

Also if you do decide to leave please please make sure it isn’t just an empty threat they will disrespect you even more as for what I’ve noticed .

@Leslie you are totally correct. He knows I come back, and that is my fault. I was just hopeful this time that he meant what he said to me.

Girl you are going to have to force yourself to move on even with tears in your eyes. He’s a lame and He won’t change Don’t get caught up in his words So many years been wasted but take this as an learning experience You need to focus on you and your kids Fr. Take up new hobbies ,get you and your kids outside. Take as much time to heal. I’ve been in your shoes and it does get easier. you can Dm if you need to talk .

And u left before right you can do it again. You is not the only woman that been through this and you only have two choices stay and suffer or leave and find love within yourself and kids ❣️ Don’t let any man ruin your life

I can’t believe you went back to someone that was literally taking up for another female. Like nawl

It's hard and it hurts. But you accept its gling to hurt and that everyday is going to be hard and draining. But something unexpected happens as you make that decision. You start to remember all the awful ways he treated you. How you didn't deserve it. You feel a hint of pride and self love for walking away from someone who treated you like that. You start getting used to your life without them. You take up new hobbies, bother with friends, make new friends. Spend quality time with your precious children where you are not sad and feeling worthless. You are happy. Then one day you realise it was the best thing you ever did. You will probably be upset that you ever let anyone treat you that way.

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