Mother's Day

Continue to ignore her and both of you put your phone on DND. Don’t give her the reaction she’s wanting from you both. Plan a day of activities for you where you enjoy each others company

We just went no contact with my MIL a few months ago and I’m worried about the same thing. I’m surprised yours messaged you though. Mine won’t message directly she will make a passive aggressive facebook post about it.

@Salina we have been communicating back and forth occasionally. I've been trying to help them understand that they hurt my partner, and that they need to approach him differently and take accountability for their actions if they want to have a relationship with him and us. I definitely regret trying. The conversation goes nowhere because she will not take responsibility. They also pretend like everything is fine and post pictures of us on Facebook. Send us emails inviting us for dinner and asking for our son to come sleep over... I told her it is insulting when they pretend like everything is normal. And she lost it. I encouraged her to reach out to her son, but not without being apologetic.. this was weeks ago and now she's messaging me about how horrible her son is and how she can't sleep at night. Meanwhile she won't take my advice and doesn't reach out to her own child.

She’s going to love bomb you to try manipulate her way back in. I would definitely be a unified force with your husband and stay no contact. They don’t need you explain what they did, they know. They can choose to fix it or they can face the natural consequences.

@Mckenna yeah we will see, I don't think love bomb. I was pretty harsh towards her. I think she will use guilt guilt guilt

My therapist always says "you can control what other people do" so your mil may contact him, there's nothing you can do about it. However "you can control what you do" so have the amazing day you deserve, get lost in your little family. Maybe you can make a rule for no electronics for the day? Just to keep all your minds off of it?