Is it only me…

My BD is becoming more and more unattractive to me. He’s a nice guy but he has a few kinks that just give me the ick. Like his dick game is a 5 and he comes quick. But that wouldn’t be so bad if he wasn’t lazy like ok you came let’s go again so I can too no he’s tired and need to go again later I’m like ok give me head to get me there and it’s either no later or he does it super lazy and it does nothing for me so I tell him to stop and I just go about my business. I told him about it his ego got hurt so he went and cheated because I made him feel like less of a man. He luck I was pregnant at the time and was a emotional mess and took him back so now his behavior has changed I’ve just not been feeling him so we haven’t been sexually active and I’m 4 months postpartum so we could but Idk. Then on top of that this boy still pee the bed. Like we’ve been together 7 years and he’s done it a few times “accidentally “ but he’s done it twice in the last two weeks I’m like alright now your peeing the bed more than our newborn come on now your a 26 year old man. At this point you should know when you’re about to go. Should I tell him to get his prostate checked or is he just a pee body lol OH! And this boy be looking at Instagram models and nonsense and it wouldn’t bother me so much if he could satisfy me but he can’t make me come why tf are you worried about anyone else me tf you should be concerned at the fact that I’m sexually frustrated. I really be annoyed 90% of the time and when I try and tell him about it HES defensive like I be like are you seriously mad right now?