Am I over reacting / what’s peoples thoughts??
So basically my MIL passed away last October due to very upsetting circumstances. She used to watch my daughter and I would see her and my FIL pretty often they’d come over and see my LG regularly but since she’s passed there’s been no effort made by my FIL. They used to foster a LG and he was happy to go and watch her all weekend couple of weeks ago but makes no attempt/effort with my LG! Really feels like such a slap in the face as the family have been through so much already! It’s getting to the point I can’t even talk to him without getting annoyed especially when he’s surprised about the ‘new’ things my LG is doing/saying but she’s been doing for weeks! Just very disheartening 😔
Talking from your FIL’s pov and as a social worker myself, he may currently have a strong bond with the child he fostered as she would have been part of his life for a significant period and as that LG has moved on, I’m guessing it’s really helpful for that LG to see your FIL to ensure she knows she is not forgotten and to help build on positive attachments with her new family. Your FIL might need some encouragement to also build a bond and connection with your LG. It will take time though and some effort from both sides. I honestly wouldn’t compare the LG who was fostered with your LG (easier said than done). He probably just needs some time x