Is this something to be annoyed about

This would totally piss me off. I think it’s incredibly rude and totally unacceptable to ‘confirm’ to you that late in the day. It’s either in your calendar or not, and you know well in advance if you can make it or not. I don’t have much tolerance for people with this type of attitude. I would be petty af and cancel now. Don’t offer to do it again either, she can host at her house 😂

Exactly thank you! I’m defo going to be petty 😂 but I’m just so sad for my little one. I was getting excited for him so he can have someone to play with other than me so that’s the only reason I’d want to let it slide. It sucks because I don’t have any other mum friends and I’ve had no luck on this app either 😒

That would piss me off too.

I'd have the play date for the sake of the kids but be very direct with her when she's over. Tell her she obviously made you a second choice and it WONT be happening again

Same here I couldn't deal with that. She ought to have put it in her calendar when you initially agreed. I'm similar when it comes to hosting I like things in order and to be prepared. I would be fuming that I'm the back up plan 😤

That is indeed disrespectful specially her being mum, she should understand it’s important she give really advance time notice ! Also she self invited herself so should’ve been more considerate. Unless she was to say oh don’t worry about lunch or whatever ! I think just be honest and tell her, early notice would’ve been better! May be just see how it goes tomo and after that don’t even bother who don’t respect others time. Or it’s your call, to cancel last min lol 😂 specially when ppl don’t respect others time , they better get taste their own medicine lol

Agreed with the above. With children, it’s harder to make plans, especially for dinner, you’ll have to go through a lot of effort to organise and prepare your house for guests and then just to cancel for another friend and pick and choose when she’s coming, like she should ask if tomorrow is okay with you first. And she should have checked a lot earlier in the day. The fact that she has a child herself, she should know better. I had a friend (no children) cancel on me last minute, I had to chase for a response too, which irritated me as I told my Mum not to travel down to see me and my little one because of those plans. I would be inclined to say sorry tomorrow doesn’t suit and then not set another date until you are happy to.

I know right! She should be the one chasing me for confirmation, not me! And because of her long reply I just got lazy to clean and tidy up my place today so for her to let me know so late and then having to cook and clean last minute is too much for me (not blaming her for my laziness but also kinda am lol). Sorry that happened to you, I’ve also had a couple of friends with no kids cancel on me last minute and I’ve kept my distance from them ever since. People say this a lot but it’s really true… you’ll know who your true friends are once you’ve had babies. Anyway I’ve cancelled on her and she’s probably not happy as I haven’t had a reply haha… oh well.

Tell her to not come she told you she was seeing another friend and clearly the other friend canceled and went back to you if you let her into your home , it will show no boundaries reschedule another date

Think of your child & not yourself & don't be petty.

I’d totally be mad. I have a “friend” that I would make play date plans with weeks ahead and last minute/the day of she would text and say “I totally forgot I had plans with…” After it happened 3 times, I was done. Needless to say I pretty much cut her off because I kept feeling like a second option

I personally couldn’t allow that. If she’s like that then imagine how she’ll be in your home. I’d take my child out instead and give him/her a day of fun.