Potentially about to screw MIL over

My flexible working request was denied today, and I’m absolutely devastated. They have offered an alternative to me which I might make work, but it will mean I no longer need my MIL to have little one. She volunteered to have him Fridays because she wanted to drop a day anyway so we have agreed thats the plan. She has had that all confirmed with work and from June she is dropping that day. She has kitted her house out for my baby with toys and highchair etc. I could work 5 days but I just dont want to. I want an extra day with him but it will mean she can’t have him now and I feel absolutely horrible about it. She is ever so excited. What would you do? I’m now dreading going back 5 days full time 😭

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Can’t you take a different day off instead of Friday? So u only work 4 days including Friday and she can watch him Friday if she wanted to still?

@Shannon no thats what has been denied. Friday is the only day i’m allowed to drop as its the “least detrimental to the company”

Oh.. that’s a shame maybe just explain to her I doubt she’ll feel any type of way maybe you can make plans where she can have baby one Friday and you have a rest day to yourself then next Friday you have baby she gets a day to herself? If not I think she will defo understand especially if it’s not up to u

@Shannon exactly what I was thinking

Just tell her. You’re both disappointed but it’s not something either of you can control. Maybe have some Fridays to yourself and let him stay there, or plan for Friday play date with her some days. Or letting her know asap may allow her to discuss it with her own job and switch days. I had something like that recently happen as well. Had to schedule an appointment way out because I couldn’t do Wednesdays which seemed to have more availability. Then a couple weeks later Wednesdays became available again so I was going to see if could move appointment up but hubs came home one day and said he’d need to go into work all day on Wednesdays for foreseeable future (he’s hybrid and usually covers my appointments) so back to no Wednesdays unless kids can go. 🙃

@Shannon i have been mulling this over as an option. I could use every other Friday as a chance to do all those jobs I have to do on the weekend which means more time with baby. And then every other Friday is a bonus day with him. Thank you everyone for your advice. Perhaps my MIL will also appreciate the days off too

Could she have him for half the day so you have half a day to go and do what you need to, have a break and then still enjoy time with them

Aw maybe she can swap a day eaaier

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