Idk what to even do
Show your support
Well tell him how it is and those feelings do happen
You need to talk to him I would say and tell him that growing a baby is exhausting and you need the peace at home. Blasting music while you’re trying to sleep is just completely selfish. Tell him to step up or piss off I say!!
My bd and I smoked in the house prior to me being pregnant and I asked that he doesn’t do it in the house for the safety of the growing babies I also wanted to have a puff here and there but didn’t cause i know I would feel bad about it afterwards it is tempting tho. But since ur 36 weeks now having sex could put you in labor sooner
But overall you should tell him how you feel and set boundaries atp since it’s starting to bother you
If he won’t let you smoke, then he shouldn’t be smoking around you. If he’s worried for the babies then second hand smoke isn’t much better and he should be just as cautious. As for the staying up/blasting music; pregnant or not that would piss me off. Personally he sounds a bit immature if he’s doing all of this while you’re pregnant, it doesn’t seem like he understands the work and exhaustion carrying and taking care of a child is and needs to read up on it. Tell him he needs to get his shit together before baby gets here
I don’t know if you meant the first sentence as a joke but I’d suggest taking some space from him if you’re having thoughts of hurting him especially since you’re saying your rage is scaring you.