Did putting God first in your marriage really help you ?
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100 percent yes! Both spouses have to do it.
Yes, every single time. God literally changes everything, because Christ renews your mind and your heart. That’s not to say there will never be tough times, but the way you experience those times changes.
No. I was married for 14 years. Very active in the church, a women's group leader, praying, reading my Bible, having a relationship with God, and my marriage was awful, verbally and emotionally abusive. My husband was in the church too. I prayed for years for God to change him, to give me patience, to change my heart when I no longer was in love with him. Nothing changed, I stayed because I thought I had to for the kids and didn't want to give up on my marriage. We did therapy individually and together, spoke with the pastors, were intentional about going on dates. None of it changed him or the situation for more than a month or two at most. Then it was back to the usual and I was miserable so I finally took my 3 kids and left. I put God first and lived according to his will but I finally questioned it and said "God I'm sorry but this can't possibly be your will for my life, to be unhappy and depressed the rest of my life. I'm sorry but I have to leave him.". And I did. Best choice I ever made for myself.
Yes!
@Sarah Thank you for having the courage to share your story. A lot of people expect that “putting God first” will result in everything in their lives going well, but that isn’t always the case. Hugs!
@Sarah sorry to hear this. But when seeking the Lord Jesus he starts first with changing your heart before he reaches over the isle to the person you are praying for. From what you wrote nothing changed neither your heart or your business. So sounds like you prayed but we’re not able to secure adequate feedback from heaven. There are many reasons for this. Please note we can pray and fast in the flesh reach Isaiah 58. And read about the prayer and fasting hypocrite in Matthew 6. I said this to throw light for others that might read and get discouraged. The Lord truly answers prayers and can turn things around when we apply the principles in the Word of God
@Ify Wow, what an incredibly judgmental and hateful response to @Sarah. You’re saying she didn’t pray hard enough, do things right, or have the right heart. You literally accused her of being “in the flesh” (not sincere) and a hypocrite. And who the heck are you to judge that??? Did you actually read what she said - her husband was abusive to her? She tried everything, she put her entire heart and soul into her marriage, she begged God for her marriage to improve. It didn’t happen because her husband chose to constantly be abusive, and she chose to leave that situation for her sake and the sake of her kids. Maybe you should live by your professed Christian values of extending grace to others and “not judging lest you be judged”? People like you are one of the main problems in the modern day church.
Absolutely 💯 yes
I am Muslim and absolutely it helps our marriage. Reminding each other of Allah’s plans and will always puts things into perspective
@Rebecca this is not kinder garden did you read where I said the response is not for her but for the benefit of others. I responded based on scriptural principles and you are here defending a woman whose choice I did not oppose. I threw light on a serious thing she said, she said nothing changed after prayer not with herself and not with her husband. That is a serious situation and outcome as a believer. Everything I told her is what I have experienced in the past. If not that I came to that understanding I would be in line to have the kind of experience she explained here. So try not to be judgemental on me also. Poster is already separated. My response was to help any other reader who may say yes she is right after trying The Lord Jesus nothing happened also in their situation. That is NOT the testimony we are meant to have.
@Ify I don’t know why you had to insult me about my reading comprehension - that’s very Christian of you (sarcasm). But at least I know how to spell kindergarten, unlike you 😂😂😂 I don’t understand much of what you’re saying due to spelling and grammar issues, but your interpretation of scripture is whack. Scripture is clear that prayer doesn’t always give the answers we want nor is it guaranteed to change another person’s heart. If that’s what you think, then you’re basically using God as a magic genie to get whatever you want and manipulate others in the process. But I didn’t come here to debate theology, I was here to defend a woman who was being rudely judged for circumstances beyond her control. I sincerely hope you never find yourself in a situation like her where you’re harshly judged by those in the church! None of us know what the future may hold, so it’s best to have an attitude of humility and kindness ✌️
@ Anonymous - If your husband wants to change and better himself for the sake of your marriage, that’s great!! If he feels God will help him in that, that’s great too! In my experience, it seems the most successful people who have changed are the ones who have looked to God for help but have also rolled up their sleeves and taken accountability for making those changes happen. For example, if someone wants to become a less angry person, they can’t just passively wait for God to magically make them less angry - they need to actively work on ways to manage their anger and their reactions to upsetting situations. Hugs ❤️
@Rebecca you came to defend a woman I came to defend the integrity of God. I hope you know that marriage is honourable and whether husband or wife go to him for help to make the marriage work, the Lord is more than willing and able. Does it always happen no but best believe if we call him into our marriage and truly wait for his still and quiet voice wisdom, guidance and direction will be given. I hope you know God hates divorce right so when a wife like the poster comes and cries for help I personally believe and know God helps. The poster did not want this kind of testimony (result) but just because it happened that her situation did not change does not mean that’s what she wanted. Attack my grammar and spelling all you want. I referred to kinder garden in regards to us not pampering each other but rather let’s speak the scripture. Matthew 7:7-8 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find;
@Sarah Please don’t pay attention to the attacks and hateful word salad of so-called Christians who are more concerned about being “right” and judging themselves as better than you rather than showing compassion and kindness. I hope you’ve found a compassionate community of people (whether faith based or not) who can lift you up! ❤️
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@Rebecca thank you that makes total sense, he is take accountability as well
In my marriage and experience- yesssss… I’ve had some rough moments and without him in the center I know for a fact we wouldn’t be together. It’s still hard but Ik God has a a lot to do with us still working things out and staying together.