I'm just giving the BM in our situation a card from us. But we've given SD4 the opportunity to make her a card, decorate a mug for her, and pick out some decorative stuff from dollar tree to put it together (bag, tissue paper, bow) Plus SD got her something small for their cat & a face mask (also dollar tree). For BMs birthday earlier this year, we took SD to dollar tree and let her pick out some things to give to her. I think it's most important to give the SKs the ability to do something; less important what it actually is. If that makes sense?
My step sons mother and I do not get along at all. However I made sure to make something for her for Mother’s Day for him to give to her I try to include her in things like that even if she doesn’t appreciate it I do it to make sure she’s included
I got the kids a pot to paint for flowers for their mom and helped them paint it and got the soil and flowers I got it for all the moms in their life so my mom bfs mom his ex and her mom