Feeling sad

Have you spoken to him about how you’re feeling? Actually sat him down and made him listen xx

This ⬆️ Sit him down and give him a list if you have to but get him on board and helping! Also if he’s making himself food it’s not hard to make a bit extra for you. Spell it out for him and don’t take any bullshit excuses…it’s as much his responsibility as yours xx

@Sam and @April I have asked him so many times I’ve even said to him I shouldn’t need to ask and I’ve told him how tired and in pain I am🥺I had a really traumatic Labour and was in hospital for a week so not been easy since the start of parenthood but at least baby girl is really good..he is good at helping with jobs around the house but equally I’m also doing them! Most of the time I’m also holding the baby to make up a bottle too! Im at breaking point xx

He is not doing good enough. I'm so sorry. He should be cooking for you and even cutting up food if you have to hold a baby in the other hand. Or you know hold the baby for 10 mins. There's another side to this too. He won't bond with baby if he doesn't help with it. Does he want to miss out on that bond? That should be his incentive as well as not losing you. Did the hospital physio not tell him you can't hoover for 6 weeks? I think you need to go on strike cleaning because otherwise you won't recover from the section physically and that will make it harder to recover from the birth trauma. He might be traumatised too but he needs to take it seriously to help prevent you getting PPD or not recovering physically Sending hugs. You will get through this. The pain will get better

Have another convo. Lay out exactly what would be helpful and what the baby schedule is. Maybe even make a chart of “chores” and “needs” for every day (with suggested times)… yes it’s a lot of work that you shouldn’t have to do… but some people are just clueless. So if you have it on the fridge or something and you mark off stuff as it’s done, then it lets him know what needs to be done and when so he has some guidance. If it still doesn’t help, then I’d probably leave the relationship because you have communicated multiple times and he is showing you he doesn’t care.

I have to ask, is your husband eating 3 meals a day and not making you any food?! If my husband done that any time, let alone 2 weeks after having a baby, he'd be lucky to still be my husband! You need to tell him straight, exactly what you need from him and that he needs to communicate if he's going to so something.. i.e., he can't just go for a workout, he should be checking in with you, even to say, I'm going for a workout, do you need anything first. Or is now a good time for me to shower etc. and he needs to be helping make sure you are taking basic care of yourself too. Tell him straight, this is how it has to be, otherwise things are going to go south very quickly for your mental health and for your relationship as a whole.