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Omg not the ‘unequally yoked’ thing?! I’ve heard of this before, there must be some YouTube video advising people that their partner has to be super openly religious?! Maybe there’s a specific thing you can do to show him that you are just as faithful to God as he is? It’s such an ironic thing, because faith is personal, not to be proven or displayed (imho) but if you want him to relax in the marriage, maybe there’s a way you can show him that. You also can’t keep having the chat about separation every time smt he doesn’t like happens, that’s draining. The whole point is for you both to generally feel safe that you’re married. If you can find a way to agreeing that each issue can be dealt with, and he still has love for you, then maybe you’ve got a shot. Therapy might help, for both of you or just for you if he refuses. And make sure to vent to people (not him!) you’re going through a lot already ❤️ xx
You baby would be raised by both parents just in separate houses and it’s not the end of the world either. My sons dad and I weren’t together when I had him and my sons just fine he’s graduating grade 8 in June. My mom and dad divorced when I was 6 and I’m 33 and I’m fine. I know it’s the life you pictured when having a child let alone married and having a child. I find that odd that he’s saying “not religious enough” cause if he was remotely religious, then he wouldn’t believe in divorce… (I’m Catholic and not strict Catholic but remember it all from being a kid lol). Maybe you need to leave, he thinks you won’t leave… next time he says that say “fine, we will take a break for 10days(just a random number do whatever you feel) and I will and we will see where we are at then?” Cause like the comment above it almost sounds like he’s scared of the next chapter in life or maybe he wasn’t ready to settle down and now is freaking out? I’m also not totally sure what to do or say to help.
He thinks you aren't religious enough, but he is faulting a commitment he made to God with you? That's not a man that's religious enough... I think there's more to this behind he wanting to separate that isn't just not being religious enough. Did he want a family? A man that thinks his wife isn't religious enough should be in front of God preying for his wife not judging or pushing her away. Why did he marry you then?
If it was me. I would have a conversation about what he wants from you in this marriage and what you want from him. (E.g physical, emotional and spiritual needs). He cannot force you to be more religious and he should’ve told you how important religion was to him before marrying and having a child with you. Marriage is hard work but if it’s something you both want to work on it can be magical.
He’s gross to bring up religion in this sense. Any religious man will try to bring his wife closer to God on her terms and by leading by example. No man as “religious” as yours is trying to come off would see the difference of relationship you both have to God and declare that this is grounds for a divorce. In any super “religious” persons eyes, divorce is a sin unless there is an annulment. Unless theres something massive you haven’t shared with us (infidelity, a big life changing lie before the marriage that was revealed after, abuse, etc.) then HE is a total fake and trying to push a power play on you. Not to mention you’re pregnant and THIS is his excuse? He’s a POS. I could be wrong, but it seems like you two are not equals and that he often times has the upper hand in decision making and coming to conclusions. You will need to get a lot stronger and start speaking up to him when he’s wrong about things. Don’t live a life of submission and following the leader.
Sounds like he's cheating and needs an excuse out before you find out and gets worse for him bc he's gonna get more in trouble in court for cheating than socially for just divorcing you. For an entire month my ex led me on saying that he was just under a lot of stress with work and baby number 2 being on the way and that he loved us and wanted us etc but that he didn't want a relationship and didn't know what he wanted but that he wanted us to live and be together but just not have the title of anything but like close friends and then I found out about the gf and I gtfo bc ain't no way I'm about to just be treated like a nanny and a sex doll at his convenience
That was something my ex said to me too that we were just too different of people than we were when we first met which made no sense at all. Like I get people change but you don't just randomly decide someone is just too different than what they were from beforehand and try to break it off and this was all around when I was 20 weeks pregnant and we'd been together for almost 2 or a little over 2ish years. More than likely he's cheating and been cheating and he's feeling slightly guilty about it especially with a child involved to some degree doesn't know how to and can't handle it and wants to break it off
Sounds to me like he is just afraid of this next chapter of your lives. I don’t understand the religious excuse because if he was religious he wouldn’t believe in divorce especially after giving you a child???? Sounds like he’s just trying to be nice to have sex with you when you say it’s great when you make love… you are totally right that you don’t deserve to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you. I know it seems like the end of the world right now but what about in a year? 2 years? How long is too long for this man to mistreat you and cause stress in your home? The little man in your tummy is going to love you more than any other man ever could.