Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy

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Adoption

My husband and I have been together since 2018, just got married earlier this year. I have a 9 year old that hasn't seen her dad since she was 1. My husband and I have talked about him adopting her. Her bio dad is on the certificate. Has anyone gone through this? I don't know if it varies by county or just state. Do...

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No hate please just opinions

So my daughter is 3, and i haven't been with her sprem donor since she was 8 or 9 weeks old. His mother made him stay away from her till they got a dna tha5 isnt liable in court i mind you and at first they seen her all the time over time they started to see uer less or make up excuses on why they couldnt come the v...

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Step mamma

How dose one step mom have a good relationship with the kids? I've tried everything with them from playing games with them to spending one on one time with both of them, and I'm still getting hate and attitude from them.

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My birthday

So my family keeps asking what I’m doing for my birthday this year and I keep telling them nothing since my son should be here and I need to focus on him. They say I shouldn’t start neglecting myself for the baby. What would you do?

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Alcoholic grandparents

This worry keeps being on my mind quite frequently. My dad has had lifelong issues with alcohol. Similarly, my grandad (his dad) was an alcoholic although back in the day my grandmum has kept him in check more or less whereas my dad when he drinks he is out for 3-4 weeks and that happens every couple of months or so...

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adoption

I don’t have anything to my name no car, no apartment, no job, no $ & no baby father.. accidents happens I would have never brought a baby on purpose into this world knowing i don’t have anything good for her, I know I know people gone say I shouldn’t have laid down either but I did now this is happening.. I use to...

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Egg Retrieval Results?

Just had my first egg retrieval yesterday! Would love to hear stats on how many of your fertilized eggs made it to day 5 blasts. Here are my results: -Retrieved: 24 -Mature: 17 -Fertilized: 13

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KIT days Work

Has anyone done any KIT days yet? I'm feeling a bit guilty for asking for them so early. I just feel summer is around the corner and we have no real money to enjoy doing anything. Also feeling like this time away from my LO might help me transition better when I go back fully.

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So unfair on kids. 🚸

I love “Gentle, Peaceful, Conscious, Attachment, etc...” parenting styles. But there’s a major problem. You see, often, these ideas turn into PERMISSIVE PARENTING and leave parents confused about how to actually hold boundaries and conflicted about which expectations to have in the first place! I want my childr...

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Me and my man been feeling the fire and desire

These next couple weeks gonna be sooooo hard to resist. We hot and ready like little ceasars pizza 😫I be almost ready to give in but I got 4-5 more weeks of healing 😫. When is a good time to give in ?

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How to get visitors to give us space

Our baby boy was born at 34 weeks and has spent the past 3 weeks at NICU and is being discharged today. On the day he was born my in-laws were asking when they could see him! We decided for let them visit in NICU that day to help settle their itch and to give us space. Roll on to today and they have asked when they ...

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Something controversial

I feel at times people are so ready to call the other parent narcissist and claim they are a high conflict parent when In reality they aren’t. Don’t get me wrong yes, there are for sure some crazy people out there others have to coparent with. Even ones who are physically and emotionally abusive. But I see at ti...

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Will and legal guardian

Please tell me we are not the only ones that hadn't done their last will and have no legal guardian for their child. I keep telling my partner we need to sort it out but it's like talking to a wall 🤦 Can people who have it sorted tell me how difficult it is? Is it lots of paperwork? And is it expensive?

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Welp I fucked it up

So I fucked up my daughters birth certificate and now I don’t know what to do. On my first child’s I never put my birth name just my name now which was changed completely when I was legally adopted. On this one I accidentally did and now I have a feeling it’s going to be a huge pain because I’ll have to bring that p...

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BD night before FET

I’ve read so many articles that this is beneficial, anyone partake and go on to get their BFP after frozen transfer?

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